These are very powerful words.
So how can one effectively change/conquer oneself permanently? By changing one thought at a time.
Firstly, everything you have thought about yourself in the past has become habitual thinking. So one wants to slowly, but surely change ones habitual thoughts about oneself. They say it takes 21 days to change a mindset but one can observe the change faster than this. Each one is unique in their acceptance of change and so it can be instantaneous for some.
If you need to love yourself
So how can one effectively change/conquer oneself permanently? By changing one thought at a time.
Firstly, everything you have thought about yourself in the past has become habitual thinking. So one wants to slowly, but surely change ones habitual thoughts about oneself. They say it takes 21 days to change a mindset but one can observe the change faster than this. Each one is unique in their acceptance of change and so it can be instantaneous for some.
If you need to love yourself
Start by identifying the things you love about yourself. These are qualities that you have always had. Just pick 5 of the most important qualities for now.
If you already love and respect who you are
Pick 5 new qualities you would like to have that you feel you have not yet mastered.
For both of the above
While you are lying in your bed relaxed, bring these qualities to mind one at a time, focusing on them. Write each word with your mind and see the word clearly. "I have always been loving", "I have always been kind", "I have always had fantastic friends", " I have always been flexible", "I have always been compassionate" etc etc. Attach an image to the quality that is easily visible to your mind’s eye example, a smiley face for friendliness or money for charitable. Your subconscious mind knows you and will understand exactly what you mean by the image.
After writing each word slowly, clearly and visibly in your mind and then hold the image you have associated with it for as long as possible.
I used to pretend I was sending the image out at sea and would hold it until it had disappeared into the horizon. This enabled me to hold the image for longer.
Essentially this exercise is done while relaxed and almost sleepy to combat any resistance one would give oneself. The idea being to get the image across to the subconscious mind with zero resistance and thereby start to embed it as a new habitual thought pattern.
One can also convert negative thought patterns into positive ones. Anything you whine about is a thought pattern that requires changing. For example I disliked BMW drivers who I thought were just the world’s most inconsiderate drivers. I converted this into: I have always loved BMW drivers and found them to be the most considerate drivers out.
I would remind myself that my old thinking patterns were still playing out and not to rise to whining during the time of change. So if I bumped into an inconsiderate BMW driver during this period, I would remind myself that they were actually considerate and ignore it. A few weeks down the line I realised that the drivers who were being the most considerate to me, were BMW drivers and so I had succeeded in changing a thought pattern and hence my reality. As within.....so without.
Twenty one days might sound like a long time, but the first time you realise that you have changed something in your life and are now experiencing the benefits of it, you will be hooked into wanting to change more and more of your thoughts.
For now just work on a few thoughts and keep them the same each night until you notice a difference. Once you have accomplished and changed one thought and seen the difference, take it off your list and add a new thought. Become more aware of your environment so that you are aware of the change having taken place.
If you find yourself contradicting the thought during the day, then just bring back the image of that thought and hold it for as long as possible. One can do this anywhere at any time e.g. while walking, while thinking, while cooking etc.
This is a journey, so don't stress about it. Have fun experimenting with it and find ways to improve on my method of doing it.
Most of all love yourself for being willing to change your thinking.
NB. I always place the thought into the past tense, so I have become it before actually being it. One has to become it in one’s mind / thinking before it can take place in ones reality.
I look forward to your feedback and successful changes.
Love
Laureen
After writing each word slowly, clearly and visibly in your mind and then hold the image you have associated with it for as long as possible.
I used to pretend I was sending the image out at sea and would hold it until it had disappeared into the horizon. This enabled me to hold the image for longer.
Essentially this exercise is done while relaxed and almost sleepy to combat any resistance one would give oneself. The idea being to get the image across to the subconscious mind with zero resistance and thereby start to embed it as a new habitual thought pattern.
One can also convert negative thought patterns into positive ones. Anything you whine about is a thought pattern that requires changing. For example I disliked BMW drivers who I thought were just the world’s most inconsiderate drivers. I converted this into: I have always loved BMW drivers and found them to be the most considerate drivers out.
I would remind myself that my old thinking patterns were still playing out and not to rise to whining during the time of change. So if I bumped into an inconsiderate BMW driver during this period, I would remind myself that they were actually considerate and ignore it. A few weeks down the line I realised that the drivers who were being the most considerate to me, were BMW drivers and so I had succeeded in changing a thought pattern and hence my reality. As within.....so without.
Twenty one days might sound like a long time, but the first time you realise that you have changed something in your life and are now experiencing the benefits of it, you will be hooked into wanting to change more and more of your thoughts.
For now just work on a few thoughts and keep them the same each night until you notice a difference. Once you have accomplished and changed one thought and seen the difference, take it off your list and add a new thought. Become more aware of your environment so that you are aware of the change having taken place.
If you find yourself contradicting the thought during the day, then just bring back the image of that thought and hold it for as long as possible. One can do this anywhere at any time e.g. while walking, while thinking, while cooking etc.
This is a journey, so don't stress about it. Have fun experimenting with it and find ways to improve on my method of doing it.
Most of all love yourself for being willing to change your thinking.
NB. I always place the thought into the past tense, so I have become it before actually being it. One has to become it in one’s mind / thinking before it can take place in ones reality.
I look forward to your feedback and successful changes.
Love
Laureen
